Most romantic relationships in stories, whether those stories are transmitted to use via book, movies, or television, feature a certain amount of tension. Maybe the tension exists because of unrequited love, or a mutual attraction that neither party will act on, or a relationship that has lost its luster after many years. Some people seem to thrive on that tension, and others seem to be hurt by it. But most of us have experienced this tension, especially if we’ve lived long enough and loved strongly enough.
I’m no stranger to tension in relationships, but I have noticed that the less tension that exists in those relationships, the better I feel about the experience. I don’t enjoy the sensation of having tug-of-war waged on my heartstrings. I like simple honesty when it comes to dealing with feelings, and tension is often at least partly the result of a lack of honesty, whether that lack is with yourself or with someone else or both.
How do you deal with tension? What’s your tensile strength?