I’ve come to realize over my vast years of experience (25) that the reason I like to have close friends or to be in a romantic relationship is very simple. I enjoy genuine companionship. I’m not looking for affirmation. After all, I get plenty of that for doing a great job at my place of business. I’m not looking for sex. After all, I can get that easily enough too. I don’t have a driving, unhealthy need to care for another person. After all, I’ve been very happy living a solitary life for extended periods of time.
I just like having companions on the journey through life. And what’s more, I’m very choosy about which people are my companions on that journey. Not everyone makes a good traveling companion, and I’ve learned that having a bad companion is much more dangerous than having no companion.