Most of us have a wall that keeps from being free to be our most genuine selves. This wall is constructed of many things, but the main substance is needs. At least perceived needs. For example, we might feel a need for the respect and approval of others. We might feel a need for control over our own actions and destiny.
But these needs are preventing us from being free and also from achieving the fulfillment of those needs. If you are constantly striving to gain the respect of others, frequently asking for approval and affirmation, then most people are less inclined to give them to you because they see you as needy and weak, undeserving of respect. If you do not feel the need for respect and simply act in good conscience, then people will often respect you. It is precisely by abandoning the need for respect that we gain respect most effectively. In the same way, releasing ourselves from our need for control is precisely what allows us to be in control. Those who are driven by the need for control are ultimately controlled by that need. They exist in the most profound kind of prison, chained by the needs that could be relinquished and thus fulfilled by the same act.
Once you cease to need, you gain the freedom necessary to live.