The Wall of Needs

Most of us have a wall that keeps from being free to be our most genuine selves.  This wall is constructed of many things, but the main substance is needs.  At least perceived needs.  For example, we might feel a need for the respect and approval of others.  We might feel a need for control over our own actions and destiny.

But these needs are preventing us from being free and also from achieving the fulfillment of those needs.  If you are constantly striving to gain the respect of others, frequently asking for approval and affirmation, then most people are less inclined to give them to you because they see you as needy and weak, undeserving of respect.  If you do not feel the need for respect and simply act in good conscience, then people will often respect you.  It is precisely by abandoning the need for respect that we gain respect most effectively.  In the same way, releasing ourselves from our need for control is precisely what allows us to be in control.  Those who are driven by the need for control are ultimately controlled by that need.  They exist in the most profound kind of prison, chained by the needs that could be relinquished and thus fulfilled by the same act.

Once you cease to need, you gain the freedom necessary to live.

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20 Responses to The Wall of Needs

  1. It’s about having respect for yourself to begin with. The people who strive to gain the respect of others… the ones who seem needy and weak. They have to have respect for themselves above all.
    So, that’s a “wall”…  lack of self respect.
    It’s fairly similar to what hinders me most in life, my lack of self esteem. Sometimes it tears into my self respect, but it’s also a completley different situation… at least in my mind.
    Two different depths of kinds of having confidence… I guess.

    Again… pondering.

  2. my boyfriend has broken down that wall. i’ve never felt more free or happy in my life.

  3. Nous_Apeiron says:

    @haushinka_86 – I’m am glad that you are free to be yourself. That is an incredible gift, especially in the context of a relationship with another person. 🙂

  4. Anonymous says:

    freedom’s just another word for no thing left to loose….

  5. Nous_Apeiron says:

    You’re close. But my next blog entry will explain my view on that subject, so I’ll not be writing a spoiler. 🙂

  6. nice post. im glad i chose this one out of all of the plugz, including those annoying ones talking about “just soandso in a crazy world” -________-;

  7. Nous_Apeiron says:

    Thank you for the compliment. Hopefully I can continue to bring you more interesting material than “just soandso in a crazy world”. 🙂

  8. All in all, it’s just another brick in the wall.

  9. Anonymous says:

    This is a great example of transcendental thinking. Once you surpass or rise above a certain human flaw or tendancy, you tend to reap the benefits that you sought after in the first place.

  10. slugs says:

    Nice!(I decided to keep it simple)

  11. I find irony in the idea that you can only get something when you stop needing it. If you don’t need it anymore, then what use is it to you?

  12. kacyy says:

    but if you cease to need anything at all, what is it then that motivates you to live from one day to the next?

  13. Nous_Apeiron says:

    @angelofcaffeine – If a person no longer feels a need for something, then its usefulness becomes irrelevant to them, yes. Let’s say that there is a beautiful woman who does not feel a need to be beautiful, and the usefulness of being beautiful is of no concern to her. Does she still not reap the benefits of being beautiful?

  14. Nous_Apeiron says:

    @kacyy – That is an excellent question. When a person no longer needs anything, they can find more profound reasons to live. For example, a person could choose to live simply because they accept life. Or they could choose to live because it benefits others. There are many reasons that people choose to live, and once needs are no longer the motivating factor, a person is finally free to make that choice rather than being driven to it.

  15. kacyy says:

    @JalapenoCol – i can’t say i agree with you. but at least your philosophy is well-rounded.

  16. Nous_Apeiron says:

    @kacyy – Fair enough. 🙂

  17. so true. Im still trying to figure out this concept. :/

  18. Klocknov says:

    Intricate in design, truthful in nature, Lively in fulfillment.To lose all needs and wants will help you go threw life, but on the side stone to that, some people need those needs and wants to live. For without need or wants you take the chance of losing all desire, and without desire you lose all reason to live. Yes you can live for others without that, thats a desire. So if someone loses all needs and wants and loses desire in the process, that could kill them on the inside and for some even on the out. So yes I will agree to lose all needs makes them come to you easier, since if you don’t need something you won’t have to wait to get it, it will appear on its own time when you see how helpful it can be. So yes without needs, you will get all the stuff you seem to need, which would be nothing.

  19. veggiemeggy says:

    Great post! It’s all so very true. People just don’t want to look at life that way. They trick themselves into believing so many lies just to get by. But when we let go of all the delusions that we trap ourselves with and embrace reality to its fullest, that is when we get by so much better.Sounds almost Buddhist!I like it. 🙂

  20. icechen28 says:

    Static-x is amazing live. especially in a club show. Whoo!

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